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Requested Topics: Romance

I was shocked to learn that I don't blog a lot about romance.

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Okay, so I lie: I wasn't.

This is because I don't know fuck all about romance.

But then, who does? Make a mixed tape for a girl (or boy, whoever, everyone likes to be romanced) and they don't like music? Chances are it's not real romantic. Take someone to the beach, and they've a phobia of water? How about lovely meals of dead things for vegetarians? I haven't done that last one--the word arrangement just struck me as nice--but I've done some of the others, and I've had some really fine failures that have left me with the opinion that romance is all about the person, and what one person digs, another is not going to do so, so try not to have one set of romantic moments.

Anyhow: here's my view, and it's simple, really, in that I figure romance is just doing something for the person who means something for you. I had a friend who sung Guns N Roses' 'November Rain' at a birthday part to his girlfriend which, hey, is incredibly lame, but it was her favourite song, and he looked like a moron in front of a bunch of people. She said it was romantic and I figure it was the combination. I've another friend who takes his girlfriend out for the whole dinner, flowers, chocolates cliche that ends with walking on a beach, and it sounds like a bad movie to me, but the pair of them are perfectly happy with that. I got another friend who tells me that being romantic is just taking a moment to touch without the aim of sex. Of course, she's single, and I figure she's got lowered expectations, but I identify with her best because of similarly lowered expectations.

The existence of romance is never in question, really, but the mileage of people varies throughout the world, because there's a lot of people living half life relationships, and when you're half lifed, you simply cannot be assed being romantic to someone. You'd rather do something else. Things get to be more interesting, more urgent, more whatever, and so the little things drop away.

Or maybe I'm just talking shit.

Just in case, here's a plus sized model in her home made dungeon talking about romance:



Topic requested by Alisa Krasnostein (girliejones)

(For amusement, I have taken part in a meme that goes, "Everyone has things they blog about. Everyone has things they don't blog about. Challenge me out of my comfort zone by telling me something I don't blog about, but you'd like to hear about, and I'll write a post about it." You can still drop in ideas, as the post will stay open until I either finish them all, or I simply get bored with writing about things I don't usually write about. It's here.)

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girliejones
Mar. 14th, 2008 01:46 am (UTC)
Thanks! Heh - I especially enjoyed the talk of handmaking cards for romance with the dungeon backdrop. Nice.
benpeek
Mar. 14th, 2008 01:53 am (UTC)
i do try my best.
porphyre
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:01 am (UTC)
Lamest. Dungeon. Ever.
benpeek
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:48 am (UTC)
yeah, i thought it was a bit on the weak side, but hey, props to her for making it and then talking about romance there. really came thru when i needed it.
(Anonymous)
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:11 am (UTC)
Ah. That last bit explains it. I thought maybe I'd gotten the wrong blog : )

Einar once gave me a jar of coal when he back from Svalbard. Now, if I put something heavy on that and wait a couple of years, I'll have diamonds. I defy anyone to say that romance is dead!

You don't blog about Svalbard a lot.

Agnes
benpeek
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:49 am (UTC)
heh. that's pretty cute. did you put something heavy on it?

it's true that i don't blog about svalbard. would you like me too? you know it's a place i love.
alawston
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:19 am (UTC)
Ahaha, the funniest thing about that video is that Ireland's actually on my MSN contact list, and has never ever EVER mentioned her dungeon. It truly is a horrendously small world.
benpeek
Mar. 14th, 2008 07:49 am (UTC)
haha.

well, if you post it on youtube, it's not going to stay a secret long.
crrazyjane
Mar. 16th, 2008 01:50 am (UTC)
Dude, I gotta tell you, I'm kind of disappointed. I saw the words "plus size model" and "personal dungeon" and had a whole different sort of idea of what that video was going to be. Way to jack up a lady's expectations and then send them crashing to the ground, buster. Where's the romance in THAT?
benpeek
Mar. 16th, 2008 08:46 am (UTC)
that's how i roll, baby. if you don't like it, you can live in another country with all your commie friends.

:)
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